Garden

Friends

2011-04-11T09:14:00.001-07:00

Respect His Friends : -
No matter how you dislike your boyfriend's friends, it never hurts to have a possibility of them rallying around you should he confide in them after you two have had a fight. And fights will happen.Most men turn to their friends after they have quarrelled with the girlfriend. If such friends have never known the girl, they are likely to fully believe his side of the story and join in his girlfriend-bashing rants.However, if your boyfriend's pals have a good impression of their buddy's girlfriend, they may even speak up for you. This can only be to your advantage. Relationships have been known to make or break due to friends' input, so don't under-estimate the power of peer influence.If you have never done any of the above "Respects", you must be wondering how you can do all six at once. Don't fret. Any effort on your part to work on any of them will eventually be noticed by your partner. Moreover, from a start in respecting one aspect, it is much easier to transfer this respect to the other areas mentioned above.Respect doesn't mean you have to be a doormat and allow him to step all over you. By all means, tell him your opinion. Give him your suggestions but do so gently, calmly, respectfully, without an expected time frame.Give him the allowance to have his own response to your outpour of thoughts and emotions. Stop expecting change, improvement and a certain set of words or action from him. Don't disguise your demands as suggestions.These are easily exposed when you react upon seeing that your "suggestions" were not taken.Remember, respect should be given, not earned (by his credits). When you respect your man, you have nothing to lose. In fact, you'll have much to gain. After all, you've tried almost everything else to make your relationship work. Why not try respect from now on?

Fact

2011-04-11T09:07:00.000-07:00

Friends can make for good ears, but their advice is not always golden. If your friends have messed up relationships or are bitter man-hating cheerleaders, they might not be the best people to consult about love. (Try friends that are married or in stable relationships). Just the other day I was talking to this sister who told me how things were going great with this guy she was seeing until her friend told her she should put him “on ice” to see if he was really feeling her. Needless to say, going from talking everyday to someone you’re really digging to purposely dodging their calls for two weeks for no good reason other than a friend’s advice didn’t bode well. The relationship went from sweet to sour in, yeah, you guessed it, two weeks.Like I said earlier, it’s good to get an outside perspective on any given situation but at the end of the day only the people involved know the real dynamic.”

Women who control men

2011-04-11T09:00:00.000-07:00

I must start with first saying, "Stand up and be a man!" Women can only control a man who allows himself to be controlled. Love does not mean giving up your friends or only talking to the friends she chooses for you to talk to. It also doesn't mean she gets to make all of the decisions in your life. If you are a man being controlled and you can't see that, you most likely need some serious help.Women who control their men are in a much larger power struggle within themselves than they are with the men they control. The man is not the issue and what he does right or wrong, assuming he does anything right, is also not the issue. She has problems that need to be dealt with and controlling her man certainly doesn't need to be a part of it. Again, as the man being controlled, you are allowing it. Stop already! If you are a man in this type of relationship and you think for one moment you're going to change her, you're sadly mistaken. She is the only one that can change her. That is one decision she most certainly must make for herself. You will not find some magic potion to suddenly make her share the decision making with you. The problem is much, much deeper. Typically, controlling women break down a man's confidence in himself little by little until the man begins to believe he is nothing without her. Controlling women are manipulative and intimidating. They are often so good at this; they make the man feel he is the one responsible for making her angry or upset. She may often accuse him of be uncaring or insensitive to her feelings. Often, the man begins to feel it was indeed all his fault. Many men with low self-esteem will continue to allow this to happen. Often, he will change his behavior to "keep the peace" or simply to escape the circumstance causing the current episode. Along with this, his self-esteem plummets even further.Controlling relationships tend to come in phases. Did she take your breath away? Did she sweep you off of your feet? Many times, this is how it all begins. Then she finds small ways to be manipulative and break down self-confidence. She can turn every conversation into something he has done, such as being uncaring or hurting her feelings.Suddenly, he finds himself completely in love with this control freak and wants to believe the woman that swept him off of his feet will return. Sadly enough, without some serious intervention, that most likely will never happen.In all relationships, there are leaders and there are followers. For the most part, that's quite healthy. However, when the woman spends most of her energy trying to control her man, she needs to look deep within herself and find out where this issue comes from. These women must learn to understand that you can't gain control of your own life by controlling others. You can only gain control on your own life by controlling yourself.Until the controlling woman faces this fact and deals with it, she will not change. She will continue to prey upon those men with low enough self-esteem to suck them into her controlling way of life and she will continue to feed on these men for as long as they will allow it.

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Subhanallah

2011-02-21T09:33:00.000-08:00

Ya allah kau kuatkan la semangat dalam diriku agar aku dapat teruskan perjalan hidupku ini. Kau persenangkan la juga perjalanan hambamu ini. aku memohon kekuatan dan ketaqwaan diri darimu ya allah serta hidayah dan cahaya nur mu itu . amin

Guy V Lady

2011-02-15T09:11:00.000-08:00

We always argue about these issues where why can I going back late at night but why can't her does the same thing as I did?

For me guy V lady , we are two different genders as we all know. It's not good to see

girls/ladies going back late at night? right? am i ? do some lepaking till late at night? I'm not saying that girls and ladies can't go lepak-ing but yeah you can find the suitable time to do that. Have you ever imagined what's going to happen to you girls and ladies outside there if you going back late at night?

there are lots of thing can happen such being rape, being kidnap, being kill and rob?
"you may say oh so far those things never happen to me" but who knows? if things what to happen to you what can you say? there's no turning back la ? right? think twice la, :)I just wanna share my opinions as now days we can see our country is packed with those criminals thingy.

adios

1 4 3

2011-02-15T09:05:00.000-08:00

Happy Anniversary to my lovely little girlfriend, I've been waiting for this 1 year anniversary. 11.2.2010 - 11.2.2011

I love you so much , Thanks for everything! We've been going through lot of thing together either ups and downs baby!

I miss you :(

one in a million

2011-01-10T13:13:00.000-08:00

B lagu ini untuk you xoxo

Girl you're so one in a million
You are
Baby you're the best I ever had
Best I ever had
And I'm certain that
There ain't nothing better
No there ain't nothing better than this

You're not a regular girl
You don't give a damn about the loot
Talking about what I can't do it for you
What you can do for yourself
Even though that ain't so
Baby cause my dough don't know how to end
But that independent thing I'm with it
All we do is win baby

In your presence can't do what you do
There's a million girls around but I don't see no one but you

Baby you're so one in a million
You are
Baby you're the best I ever had
Best I ever had
And I'm certain that
There ain't nothing better
No there ain't nothing better than this
Girl you're so one in a million
You are
Baby you're the best I ever had
Best I ever had
And I'm certain that
There ain't nothing better
No there ain't nothing better than this

Timing girl
Only one in the world
Just one of a kind
She mine

11.1.11 :)

2011-01-10T13:07:00.000-08:00

Happy eleven months anniversary baby! :)
one more month to go for our one year anniversary;

thanks for all you have done for me :) xoxo

2 months to go

2010-12-28T11:46:00.000-08:00

Pejam celik pejam celik, time is running out for my 1 year anni? haha :)

I cant wait for this number 11 to appear on the month of February!

Fh i love you! i mean it! woot byeezz haha

E

2010-12-28T11:13:00.000-08:00

Bila cinta kini
Tak lagi bermakna
Yang ku rasa kini
Hanyalah nestapa
Ditinggalkan cinta masa lalu

Dulu kau tawarkan
Manisnya janjimu
Yang ku sambut itu
Dengan segenap hatiku
Bila engkau pergi
Tinggalkanku

Hilangnya cintamu
Menusuk hatiku
Ternyata memilih
Cinta yang fana

Perginya dirimu
merobek jantungku
Hingga ku terjatuh
Dalam harapan

Hilangnya cintamu
Menusuk hatiku
Hingga ku terjatuh
Dalam harapan

confession

2010-12-24T13:30:00.000-08:00

This is for you again bby :-

I'm sorry once again for all my wrong doings toward you!
Sometimes I know that I've treated you in a bad way. Sometimes my words are too rough or my attitude maybe a little bit inappropriate. I'll try my best to change and to be a better person alright. All these things influenced by my past and you know that I'm paranoid! I'm sorry for being too ego and etc! That's all I can think about what to say ok, just so you know I really in love with you so much! And I miss you! Xoxo

Fever

2010-12-23T11:33:00.000-08:00

I think I think I think? think what? getting fever! haha

when flu gets control of my body, ill produce a lot of sounds that you don't want to hear! trust me! haha

ok byeee, im going to eat now and try to sleep!

love story

2010-12-23T11:09:00.001-08:00

Day after day, my feeling towards you become more stronger, bond between us become closer each day. I'm glad you are happy as we reached our 10months anni :) HOHO

I love you you love me we are happy family baby!

I'm don't want to lose you ok! thankssss FH

Life so called live

2010-11-24T11:18:00.001-08:00

I'm not willing to lose you,

You always there when i need you,

you are willing to do anything for me,

I hope you are true,

true? true love, FH Im deeply in love with you!

Dream girl

2010-11-16T09:46:00.001-08:00

The one and ONLY mischa barton peeps, ma gaddd :))

2010-11-16T09:38:00.000-08:00

I love girls with long hair, long legs -__-

internal and external of me

2010-11-16T09:31:00.000-08:00

Extraversion=Me :)

You can predict and you will never understand people like me because I'm different :)

Life

2010-11-16T09:21:00.001-08:00

Life,
Life is really short,
We don't know when is the time we go,
So spend your time with good things,
Life,
Life can be up and down,
Deal with it, Deal with problems,
Don't run nor avoid from em,
As we learn from them, and em' motivate us,
Come out from comfort zone,
Life is simple so called like a candle

New fresh kickin' post haha

2010-11-16T09:07:00.000-08:00

It's been 9 months, there're rise and rose throughout our relationship but for me it's nothing to scare me. I love you is the simplest word for you FH :)
Thanks for everything , I'm sorry if i can't be your dream guy boo :)